8 Common Relationship Problems and How to Solve Them
Most couples, if not all, experience highs and lows in their relationship. No matter how caring or understanding you or your partner may be, fights or misunderstandings seem inevitable. These problems are not necessarily unhealthy; these can mean that you still have a lot to discover about each other and a chance to make the relationship stronger and healthier.
No relationship is perfect. All unions have flaws, and conflicts are expected to happen from time to time. However, no issue can destroy the bond of couples working hard together to make their relationships work.
Here are some common relationship problems and ways for you to solve them:
1. Communication Issues
In every kind of relationship, communication is always the key to harmony. Some serious relationship problems are rooted in miscommunication or lack of communication. Since we, humans, are not mind-readers, we should not expect other people to understand us if we do not express our thoughts completely. Many couples fight because either one or both of the partners fail to communicate clearly.
There is only one solution to communication issues — and that is no other than the communication itself. Instead of keeping your heartaches and disappointments from each other, make it a habit to sit down together and have heart-to-heart but level-headed conversations to express what you feel.
Don’t wait for small things to pile up. Take time to listen to your partner. When it’s your turn to talk, stay calm and not let your emotions get the best of you.
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2. Pride! No One Willing To Give Way
Another common issue in relationships is pride. During conflicts, many people refuse to admit their mistakes and apologize to their partners. If you have observed, most fight scenarios involve pointing fingers at one another, but rarely does anyone take the blame.
To overcome this kind of problem, both of you have to acknowledge the need for humility on both sides. Then, you talk and come to an agreement on how you should deal with conflicts without being defensive and offensive. For instance, you can agree that both of you should evaluate your part in the conflict whenever there is a misunderstanding, be willing to admit it, and apologize.
3. Trust Issues
You may have some trust issues because of your experiences in your past relationship(s), and that’s totally understandable. However, if you let these trust issues eat you up, these will hinder your current relationship’s progress.
You might end up losing the person you love because of these unresolved issues in the past; never let that happen. Have faith in your partner and the love that you have for each other. Live in the present, leave those trust issues behind, and give yourself a chance to be happy- without reservations.
4. Jealousy
You may be the type of person who easily gets jealous or the one who only gets jealous when there’s an explicit reason to do so. Whatever the case may be, jealousy is part of human nature. It is normal to feel jealous if you love a person because you do not want to lose him/her. However, it becomes unhealthy if it makes you overly possessive already. Hence, know when to feel jealous and when not to.
Sometimes, jealousy has a root — probably a trust issue between you or a past cheating incident — so it is a fragile problem to deal with. If you want your relationship to work, you need to be willing to let go and forgive past mistakes. You must also help each other build or rebuild the trust in your relationship by being honest, open, and transparent.
Trust yourself and your partner. When something is bothering you, always tell your partner about it. If needed, set boundaries, but make sure both of you agree with those boundaries. After all, if your partner loves you that much, he or she will not give you any reason to feel jealous.
5. Insecurities
Insecurities are connected to jealousy issues. In fact, insecurity can be a source of jealousy. It can range from “His boss is more beautiful than me” to “She’s too perfect for me”. While it seems unavoidable to have some insecurities, these can kill you and the relationship you have with your partner.
The best thing you can do? Develop a different mindset. Never underestimate yourself. If you really think you need to improve some aspects of yourself, then do something about it. Eat healthily. Do better in your career. Be mature enough to work on your insecurities. Your partner can always say you’re the best person he or she has ever met, but everyone has limits, so try to help yourself too.
6. Lack Of Time For Each Other
One of the usual causes of lovers’ quarrels is the lack of time together. Some people could become so busy with their careers that they can barely free themselves to see their beaus. Unless their partners are very understanding, the time will come that this could trigger animosity in the other person, which could lead to a gap between them.
Time is an important language of love!
Spending quality time with your partner is one way of showing how much you value him or her. While it’s admirable that you work too hard for your future together, you might regret it when he or she’s already gone.
You both need to understand that it becomes one of your priorities when you chose to commit to a relationship. No matter how busy you are — if you really want your relationship to last — then you have to insert a “babe time” in your hectic schedule. It is best to agree on a specific time (not necessarily for hours and somewhere grand), like a twice a week lunch or dinner together.
Try to always set a schedule. When will you see each other? When will you give your partner a call? When will you two have a getaway? No matter how hectic your schedule is, always make time for your partner because he or she deserves it.
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7. Too Much Time Spent With Each Other
On the other hand, being together almost 24/7 could create a big problem too. Doing together all the time could rob you both of the chance to grow personally and explore individual opportunities. You also have to remember that there are other relationships that you need to give time to, like your family and friendships.
If you have noticed that your world seems to revolve around your partner already, then it is time to consider balancing your life because this is unhealthy. You need to agree on setting a “me time” and a time to spend with your own families and circles of friends. Also, give each other the freedom to embrace career opportunities, meet new people, and enjoy hobbies on your own.
8. Creating A Harmonious Relationship With Families
Meeting and winning the hearts of your beloved’s family could be challenging, especially if you are not their ideal partner for their son/daughter. Likewise, you could find his/her family annoying or hard to deal with. Now, you have to understand that if you married your boyfriend/girlfriend, his/her family would be your family too.
You cannot choose nor change your partner’s family. As much as possible, both of you should work to get closer to each other’s parents and siblings. If friction cannot be avoided between you and your partner’s family (or your partner and your family), being respectful and civil with them is the least possible.
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